Sometimes things don’t go the way you planned…
Actually for me I have found that, most of the time things don’t go the way I planned. Maybe because I plan everything so there are more things that can turn out differently than I expected or maybe I am just a bad planner! Who knows??
Well anyways, quite a few things have turned out differently than I expected this school year, most importantly being that I was not accepted into an organization that I REALLY wanted to join. I put hours and hours into the application and yet for whatever reason my application did not score high enough to make it through the first round of cuts. Let me be completely honest, I was devastated! I had set my heart on joining the organization, and after waiting two weeks to hear back I found out that I had not been accepted. As someone who has gotten almost everything in life that I have ever applied, auditioned, or tried out for I did not know how to deal with the rejection.
I turned to my best friend for some words of wisdom. She is the type of person that can tell me to my face to stop being stupid or spazzing out. I trust her with everything, because I know that no matter what she is going to be there for me 100%. During our conversation that night she said two things that really helped me get past the rejection. First she said, “change the path not the goal.” I have become obsessed with this quote! I realized that although I would not be joining the organization there was no reason why I had to give up on my reason for wanting to join in the first place. My goal was to expand my network to include dedicated, hard-working, driven college women as well as to increase my community service involvement and there is absolutely no reason why I needed to give up on this goal. In fact the rejection lit a fire inside of me to think about reaching this goal is new ways. I see this phrase as a new take on “when one door closes another door opens.” And luckily for me this is exactly what happened, as yesterday I was offered a job at my favorite cycling studio in Austin, which is something I have wanted since last semester.
The second thing she said, was to make a list of my blessings, hence the title. Growing up I used to thank God every single night for all the many blessings I have, however somewhere during my time in college I lost this habit. So I decided to do exactly what she said and make my own little or actually BIG blessings list. Taking the time to write a list was much harder than I expected. Not that I don’t think I have a lot of blessings in my life but rather the action of writing them down, even though I knew no one was going to see it, made me a bit self conscious. I carefully considered each thing before I would write it and whether or not it should be considered a blessing. A little silly I know, however it also meant that I took more time to think about each blessing in my life and why I consider it a blessing.
It is SO easy to get caught up in everyday shenanigans and stress out about the smallest things but writing down a list of all the people, things, and experiences I have to be thankful for grounded be and helped me appreciate the bigger picture.
I want to thank my best friend for bringing me back to earth (like she always does) and for reminding me that every small or big bump along the way only means a change in course not the end of the road!